But, seriously like the title stated. When does a man cry? Well, silently men cries and many spouses don’t have a single clue that he’s shedding tears. Males shows toughness to the one they truly loves. And then some breaks down and show their hearts to the one they adore.

Losing a child will make a man show his tender side. Just the thought of a decease parent that- that man was truly close too. Men cries and there’s nothing weak about being emotional. There’s nothing wrong with letting that brave heart show weakness.

Doctors have stated that releasing your emotional hurt is better then keeping that emotions locked inside. Where you’re doing more harm than good to yourself? Sure, you might heard as a child you’re a sissy if you cry. Bu, those that states those words can’t admit as a grown man that tears comes o their eyes.

Many times, you’ll find that spouse/lover being the shoulder you can lean on doing your hurtful time. Where you’re strong for her? In the end she’s strong for you. Many ladies personally have seen their man break down and try to hide his tears, from them. Or, wash their faces to cover up the tears upon their faces.

As, we get older and reflects back on our parents. We cry with happy memories. Tears plays a serious part in the body then many people truly understand or comprehend. Remember, no man is weak because he shed a tear.

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1. Understand why

The reason to say no must be clear in one’s mind. Take time to figure out why and keep reassuring oneself the benefits after the deed. The stronger the reason, the firmer one will act.

2. Reassure mastery

Do not let the surrounding temptations weaken your mind. Many people will try to decide for you based on their wish, which is against your interests. Be a responsible master and say no, for your own best.

3. Convey clearly

Be polite, calm and clear when conveying the no message. This suggests a stronger determination that helps deter other people from trying to talk you around.

4. Keep a distance

Stay away from any temptations that can change your mind. If you don’t want to take illegal drugs, don’t meet people that can provide illegal drugs. Peer pressure can be powerfully destructive if it is used on the wrong deed.

5. Don’t think of it

Consolidate your no by stop thinking the temptations. The most critical thinking should be done before you made the decision of saying no, not afterwards. When you don’t think, all attempts to change your mind will extinguish.

6. Keep yourself busy with some other things

Focus on the daily duties. If you have extra time and effort, assign new positive project so that you won’t have time to entertain any request that have been stamped “no proceeding”.

7. Seek appropriate help

If you still have difficulty in being firm to say no, do not hesitate to seek help. Talk with trusted party and invite them to keep reminding you to stay on the safe track. Professional help should be considered if the reliable acquaintances are not powerful enough to hold you tight.

There are many occasions in our life we have to turn down ourselves and other people. For details, please refer to another article, Self-Help: Learn When to Say No. Be firmed to say no, you can stay away from many troubles and harms.

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As a mother of a now thirteen year old daughter I am constantly worried about what my daughter might be getting into.  It’s not that I don’t trust my daughter, but I know what’s out there.  I know that there are bad kids out there and my daughter may not be able to tell the difference.  I also know that there are temptations out there, be it drugs, alcohol or sex.  Yet, how would I know if my daughter was into any of this stuff?

For parents with growing children we are constantly afraid of what might happen if our kids fall into the wrong crowd.  With this in mind some parents feel it’s okay to go through their children’s things to look for clues.  Their reasoning is that if they find something they can confront their child and get to the bottom of it.  However, the question is whether or not this wil work?  My honest opinion is that the invasion of privacy will cause a child to shut down and not trust their parents at all.

I think the best thing we can do is talk to our children about what is going on in their lives.  We don’t want to be over-bearing but our kids need to know what is and is not good behavior, as well as what can get them in trouble. As long as we do that I think our children will feel comfortable coming to us to discuss things.  What do you think?

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When we knowingly or unknowingly consume foods that would invariably cause us irreparable harm; when we might be tempted to commit unlawful deals and transactions, knowing that, sooner or later, we might be within the easy reach of the long arm of the law; when we indulge in self-abuse, such as smoking, the intake of harmful drugs and excessive alcohol, or various other aspects of immoral actions that are destructive and deleterious in nature.

Human beings are not entirely immune to resisting certain temptations of evil; however, such weakness could be counteracted by the power within us to reconsider executing or consummating certain actions that are deemed undesirable, through the exercise of self-control and self-discipline, both of which contribute to the importance of self-preservation, beginning within the sanctuary of home and extending to the environment of essential institutions of learning, and the moral benefits acquired therefrom.  We live in a world of diversity and promiscuity and as time goes by, we have to be more and more cognizant of the universality and importance of self-preservation.

The one thing about his relationship with David Ruffin, is no one truly believe the four members fire Ruffin from the group and the information might be completely true, as reported.  Ask many, if they think Gordy pull rank on being the president with the power to advise them of the consequences that might happen, if Ruffin continue his  ways  played a part most will say possible.

They will tell you that Gordy  gets the credit solely for Florence Ballard, dismissal from the Supremes, over her dealing with the rules he set down about  her behavior  and ,that Diana Ross or Mary Wilson, didn’t have a say about her termination.

So, it stands to say ,that somehow Gordy, played a greater part in David, being fired from the Temptations, because he have written that he was going to fire Stevie Wonder, just because his vocals went through a change.

Was Ruffin a problem? From every direction possible, but this to be expected, when he asked about the royalties it probably rose the heat of conflict with the founder of Motown more, than with the group. We see he honor his solo contractual matter after suing for his release from  the label.  Many believe Gordy held grudges against many, who tried to question him about decisions  and that he omitted certain elements in his biography to come across less evil than many have said.

People will always question his relationship with his many artists and they have that right to get the picture in focus even, if he did bring some to the lime light of success.

Brother Grazier taught a whole course on the epistles to the Corinthians, and because NBI was an Assembly of God school, there was special emphasis upon the gifts and operations of the Holy Spirit as described in 1 Corinthians.

The twelfth chapter of 1 Corinthians essentially describes the gifts of the Holy Spirit, and the fourteenth chapter places a focus upon the correct operation of the gifts of tongues, interpretation of tongues, and prophecy. In the midst is the thirteenth chapter where the Holy Spirit insists that the operation of the gifts be done in love.

In the New Testament, two Greek words are used for our word love. One is phileo (fill-lay-oh) and the other is agape (ah-gah-pay). I discussed these words, along with eros, some months ago in my article titled, A Little-known Element for Endurance in Marriage.

There I note that agape must be the primary love in marriage. Agape comes from one’s will, and not their emotions. It has also been described as unconditional and sacrificial. Agape is sometimes translated in the King James Version as charity. Though charity to many today means giving, centuries ago it conveyed the idea of love from one’s will.

Stego: A Dynamic Force of Agape Love

While 1 Corinthians 13 was primarily intended to promote the proper operation of the gifts of the Holy Spirit, much of what it says can be applied to marriage. Quite helpful is the first phrase of verse seven, that love “bears all things.” The word for bear is from the Greek word, stego, pronounced stay-goh.

According to Thayer’s Greek-English Lexicon it can mean the following:

1. To protect, to keep by covering, to preserve.

2. To cover with silence; to keep secret; to hide, conceal.

3. By covering to keep off something which threatens, to bear up against, to hold out against, and so to endure, forbear, bear.

Its usage in verse seven leans heavily toward the third description. I recall brother Grazier stating during class that when the Greeks wanted to give a boat a good water seal, they would “stego” it with tar or pitch, outside and inside.

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Thus, one who activates the love of God (agape) within themselves will endeavor to actively protect their relationships from outside influences and inward disturbances. This is imperative for our relationship with our spouse.

The Internal Shield

Satan, along with society in general, has attacked marriage on several fronts. Among other things, the availability for a married person to flirt incognito has increased with the advancement of technology, ranging from text messaging to all sorts of Internet usage. In many cases, both spouses have to work outside the home, adding both stress and temptations in their lives.

While I could present more negative scenarios, it is best to focus upon the positive protection available in the stego of agape that we can have if we accept the grace of God.

Remember that agape love flows from the will and not from one’s emotions. And the best foundation for that will is to be immersed with the mind of Christ (see Romans 12:1-2).

As we read the Holy Scriptures we see God wills to have faithfulness and caring love in marriage along with purity in body, soul and spirit. With that in mind, we should ask God to make our will like His will.

Armed with His will, with His agape love in us we will purposely put up a shield against temptation, stress, impurities and other things that would weaken our relationship with our spouse.

Though temptation can be tantalizing at times, we must constantly affirm our love for God. In so doing, it is easier to protect our love for our spouse for, if we are determined out of love not to sin against God, we will be determined not sin against our spouse. This determination helps to form the stego we need as a shield.

Our thought life is a good place to start developing stego. While we might rationalize that no one except God knows what we are thinking, dwelling upon the impure damages us spiritually and weakens our relationship with our spouse. When an impure thought ventures into your mind, immediately and purposely think upon something good and pure (Philippians 4:8). Begin to worship God. Reading the Word of God also helps to wash impurities away.

If one activates stego for these so-called small, hidden things, they will eventually become more apt to put up the same line of defense against external attacks like flirtations.

“Friendly” Invitations

Married people should readily indicate they are married. For example, if a co-worker or friend of the opposite gender asks you to go somewhere with them on a trip without mentioning bringing your spouse along, regardless of how innocent the proposal may seem, the wisdom of God within us should detect that this is a situation that we need to avoid at all costs. Immediately stego your marriage by stating your spouse should go along with you. If the person persists, immediately tell them it is not right in the eyes of God for you to be with someone else other than your spouse in such situations. Do not keep that conversation going. To do so may imply to the other person you might just consider the thought of being with someone else other than your spouse. Outright tell them you are married and you are not going to behave in such a manner or even discuss the issue.

And here are some Scriptural reasons why it is not right to even carry on such a conversation, let alone follow through with the request:

• “Abstain from all appearance of evil,” 1 Thessalonians 5:22. If you are Christian, why give anyone a chance to attempt to find a reason to discredit Christianity?
• “Neither give place to the devil,” Ephesians 4:27. The door opens wider for sin to enter each moment we delay in directly, firmly and clearly saying “no.”
• “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life,” Proverbs 4:23. If we are truly Christian we should constantly keep in mind we must daily die to our self and let Christ live through us.

Following the above verses activates the stego of our agape for our relationship with God and our spouse.

Close Working Conditions

To cut financial corners, some places of business are designed in such a way that the working area for employees is cramp. I imagine someone came up with the idea that if square footage is reduced it saves time moving things and people from point “A” to “B.” Regardless, do not fall into the trap of thinking that continuous bumping, body brushing, or any physical contact is innocent and normal. Make an effort to keep your distance and, by the direction of God, let others know they need to keep their distance.

Some More Ways to Put Stego into Action

Sitting at a table with others and someone’s leg or foot touches yours? Move your’s immediately. Others have failed to do this, yielded to the flirting, and soon had trouble in their marriage.

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Use your wedding ring as a tool to ward off flirtations. Wear it. Let it show. In the mid 1970’s I served as a counselor at a children’s camp. There was a chapel service every day. I noticed that each day when I escorted my group of boys to chapel, a female counselor with her group was right behind mine, and sat behind us in chapel. This continued for a few days. So, during chapel, I placed my left hand on the top of the pew I was sitting on and drummed my fingers, making sure my ring was visible. The lady got the message and discontinued her pursuit.

When it comes to kissing, my personal standard is I kiss only relatives, and only my wife gets it on the lips. Some churches practice “greet each other with a holy kiss.” What needs to be kept in mind is that most congregations in New Testament times were segregated, the males in one area and the females in another. The kiss for a mutual brother or sister in Christ was the same as our handshake today in many parts of the world. Given the verses above (1 Thessalonians 5:22 and Ephesians 4:27), I am sure that there was no intent by the Holy Spirit through the Apostle Paul to indicate that the practice of kissing during a church service was meant to be cross-gender. And I am also sure that the Apostle, given the sinful condition of today’s society, would tell us a handshake would be better in our times. Even within the Church a truly holy kiss would be quite rare.

If one considers these precautions prudish, I would respectfully suggest they check their relationship with God. I would rather be called a prude (which has happened) and sustain the displeasure of man, than open the door to compromise and sin, displeasing my heavenly Father and hurting my spouse.

Stego and Stress

Stress can be another factor that can damage our relationship with our spouse. Things like finances, employment or lack of employment, relatives, and habits can bring agitation to anyone that grows into pressure that might be eventually vented upon our spouse. Satan and our sinful flesh team up to magnify a situation to a point where we target our spouse for our frustrations.

Ask God to make your spiritual ears very sensitive to His voice. Make an effort to think like Christ and condition your conscience to hear from His Holy Spirit. Also ask God to give you a spiritual nudge to activate within you the stego of His love.

For many people, this procedure is not easy to follow and oftentimes they fail, permitting stress to unleash anger toward their spouse. Most times we learn best by repeatedly trying. So if you fail, ask God and your spouse to forgive you, and continue to pray as suggested in the previous paragraph. Gradually you will grow in the ability to discern how to handle your stress as well as in activating the stego within you to prevent making your spouse a target.

Stego and Impurities

If impurity touches you, do not share it with your spouse. Bring it immediately to the Lord and ask Him to cleanse you.

The Lord dealt with me on this issue some years ago. Though a pastor, many times I have had to supplement my income by working in a secular job. As it happens to many of us, we hear or see things at work that are spiritually unclean. For example, there were times a fellow worker would tell me a dirty joke, even though I told him I did not want to hear it. The worker, of course, ignored my request and quickly spilled out their filth. I had a habit of telling my wife everything that happened at work, including such situations. However, one day my conscience sensed God’s Holy Spirit telling me not to repeat the jokes to Dorcas to “get them off my mind,” but rather to bring my mind to Him to have it cleansed. Why should I endanger my spouse with possible spiritual infection? She is just as human as I am. Christ is the only victorious person and therefore a great High Priest.

This is not to say we should keep from our spouse any other problems we might encounter with temptations at work unless God, and only God, tells us we should. This might be true, for example, in cases where the emotional, mental, or spiritual condition of our spouse is quite fragile. In such a case, if God so leads, tell a trusted true Christian friend that is the same gender you are so you both pray that you will grow in the grace of God and in the sensitivity of hearing His Holy Spirit.

Be Determined to Defend

Though I, as any author, am limited in knowing all possible ways one’s marriage might come under attack, God is not limited. He knows all, including every situation we will meet in the future.

More important is the fact that He has made adequate provision in His Son for us to do the right thing, providing that His Son truly lives within us and we permit Christ to live through us.

If we truly love God and our spouse, we should feast upon His written Word and desire within us the overflowing filling of His Holy Spirit.

I feel led by the Holy Spirit to conclude this article with a prayer one might use. I am presenting it only as a guide. I encourage you to sincerely pray to God through Christ from your heart using your own words.

“Father, I thank You that You are the God of holy love, pure and mighty. I ask that You cleanse me thoroughly. Forgive me where I have sinned, where I have come short. I ask that Your Son, Jesus Christ, truly live through me and that my love for You may increase. Cause my love for my husband/wife to also increase. Quicken my conscience to hear Your voice and strengthen my inner man so I may be quick to raise a shield when anything tries to weaken my love for You or my spouse. I thank You for what Your Son has done for me, my spouse and my family. Worthy are You and worthy is the Lamb to receive praise, adoration, love, and honor. I Jesus’ precious Name I pray. Amen.”