When people are told to stay postive, they don’t know what to do. They think they should meditate or go help the homeless. Not nessicarily. You just have to know deep down in your mind that God is planning something good for you. Every time you see something bad, just remember that God is protecting you. Every time it appears that “the world will end,” remember, nothing is out of God’s control. Nothing will go according to Satan’s plans, because God’s plan outweighs his. Never forget that, because once you do, you start worrying about all the bad that could possibly happen. When you start thinking like that, you’re definatley not going to be in a postive mood!

WHAT A GREAT DAY TO BE ALIVE

That’s right! A good friend’s father died on New Year’s Eve. The poor man had gone out in the morning to do some shopping, without forgetting to get a bottle of champagne to have in the evening with his twelve grapes of good luck as it is a custom on such a night. He had lunch and a good nap. By the evening, he was dead. 

LET A SMILE BE YOUR UMBRELLA

It’s what I say. smiling is a lot better than not smiling. They say it’s also good for the skin and to show what a good job our dentist did on our teeth. It helps us to relax. The trouble is that, as one goes around, one sees very few things to smile at. Last night, for instance, few people had settled to sleep under the arches of the ancient square and it was such chilling one! The government are doing the opposite to what they swore they wouldn’t do during the election campaign and they say that the worst is still to come. Ah!

THINGS ALWAYS TURN OUT FOR THE BEST

We better believe so, or we might as well end up under a passing train. I always mumble what a poet said once (can’t remember who) “When it’s so dark, it means it’s going to dawn”.

LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT

I think I could agree on this one. As long as we have a roof over our heads, food on the plate and a sound health we can strive for things. This is very true.

EVERY CLOUD HAS A SILVER LINING

It is what psychologists tell us, don’t they? If one thing goes wrong, don’t worry. There is something good for you out of it. If one’s partner has dumped us, we didn’t most probably deserved them. 

OH, GIVE IT A REST!

I will. Sure, I will. it is only that it’s one of those days.

DON’T SMOKE! IT’S BAD FOR YOU!

Do you know why I can’t give it up? because I don’t want to. Few cigarettes a day do help me to relax, puts a good smile on me and allows me to give it a rest. 

Am I right or not? What’s your say?

Before you begin Challenge number two please do My Corset of Love Challenge One

Relationships require devotion. Do we all agree? I do hope so.

Your next Challenge is to Answer the following question. Please write it onto a piece of paper. I ask you to please answer honestly. After you have finished answering and writing it down I want you to ask 3 ” different” people the same question. Tell them you are taking The My Corset of Love Challenge and you need to ask people to answer this question would you be willing? If they are not no worries move onto the next person. You can do this in person or simply by email, or phone, perhaps not a telegram though haha!!

OK after you have the answers of 3 different people check back here to the group. Please keep your answer also.

Here is the question.

You were invited out to dinner for your birthday. You are sitting at the table with your friends and family enjoying the meal and atmosphere when across the room walks employees of the restaurant. They are holding a birthday cake filled with candles and singing Happy Birthday. This is for you. How do you react to this?

Believe it or not experiences yield a vast variety of responses. As you would have discovered by asking 3 people the same question you received 3 different responses. I found this discovery very interesting and this is why.

Relationships today are often defined by what it is we or others think they are..
Relationships today are often defined by what it is we or others think they should or shouldn’t be.

Our challenge number two requires us to open up to the unknown. Greater peace comes from accepting we don’t know everything, and nor do our friends, family and acquaintances. In fact we don’t know SO much that some do not realize Loving Relationships cannot be known. You see relationship begins on a totally different area , our heart, our soul, our longing, our desire, our passion.

Have you ever heard people speak of the left side of the brain and the right side of the brain? It’s true we have 2 cerebral hemispheres that make up our brain. (I like to say we have 2 brains)

The left side of our brain controls everything primal about life, like speech, logic our reasoning. It is the side of the brain that takes little to hear. I often find this side is fact, is should.
**important** The left side of the brain also holds the present and the past.

The right side of our brain controls your creativity, your passion, your longings, your appreciation, and your enlightenment. And YES it also controls LOVE

**important* The right side of the brain also holds the present and the future!!

Now that I have explained this it is my hope that you too will also see the reasons why some lack relationship, desire for relationship, and devotion to relationship.

As I said at the beginning of My Corset of Love Challenge “you must commit to participate in order to discover Mr Right or Mrs Right. This is indeed devoting time to Your future! Love truly defies all logic and that it why it is desired so deeply by so many. Today life is very much based on left brain thinking, following order and a patterned kind of perception.

Truly we can see by our question posed to 3 different people and our own answer that human reaction to experience is not defined by ONE strict action.

Here is a little tip to practise with your thinking when it comes to Love and finding love. Honor the truth of your own thinking. If you feel you may have a false way of thinking that has patterned it’s way into your present, challenge that thought with your own logic,your own rules of honesty, your own comprehension, your own knowing. Lol…in other words…don’t use, borrow, or listen to someone elses left brain.

Congratulations you have completed My Corset of Love Challenge #2 Devote your time to receive the present and future qualities of Relationship. Bring into today a new passion, a new longing, a new appreciation for Relationship. Your past relationships are no longer your borrowed time. Thinking about them is wasting your time.

Great love to you each.

    When you first come across someone who you believe you need to utilise this skill on, be aware of that person’s attitude. It will almost always allow you to have a good guess on how it is affecting their response. You can also use attitude to your advantage by changing their mood and see how it affects what you can receive from them. Doing so can be as easy as telling them what they want to hear so they will open up to you, or making them mad so they will not think straight. Mood or feelings play a huge role in why people will act a certain way or how they might talk about something, so make sure you take them into consideration when speaking to someone.

    Another key role in the ability to see through someone is gathering and using background knowledge.  While knowing someone for a long time with allow you to guess how they truly feel with ease, figuring out the essentials about someone you just met will still help you greatly.  Think about their appearance and the way they speak. Do you know anything about their past? What is their intention in talking to you? Considering points like these while speaking to them will help you realise why they are saying what they are to you.

    Although a major part of figuring out what someone is thinking is making guesses based on what you know, you do not want to go too far with your assumptions. When you are unsure of something, ask! See how they respond. If you cannot ask a question, see if you can find out the answer in a different way. Take everything you start to believe as a possibility, and you will not find yourself in a tough spot.

    After reading about the three key ideas on how to see through people, be sure you to use them on a daily basis. It is true practise makes perfect, and that applies to this very well. If you are careful, follow the steps, and practise, you will soon be able to do this as if it is second nature.

Everything in life is connected. It is connected because we are all made of energy, animate, and inanimate objects. Therefore, we have the ability to change the things around us. When we think of something, in simpler terms, you are wishing to the Universe (God). And when you put that wish out, the Universe will change itself to fulfill your wish. If you put that wish out many, many times, and focus on it passionately, you’ll receive what you want even faster! Well you could argue with, “wellll….. one time, I was sitting there hoping that my mom wouldn’t serve spinach, and she did!”  Well there’s two things you could have overlooked. One, the Universe doesn’t respond to “don’t” the Universe only knows action. You may think, “well what, is it stupid?” No. All it is, is obeying your wish, and your focusing on spinach, so you ultimately get… spinach! The other thing is, you can think about something you want, like an iPhone, but the energy is created from the feeling, not so much the thought of that iPhone. Feeling it would be pretending you had it, or feeling the feelings you would feel if you were to have that iPhone handed to you. That would be right. But thinking about it would be holding a picture in your mind that you saw off of Google Images. That would be wrong. It’s generating energy, and yes you are focusing on it, but it’s not enough energy to tell the Universe it’s that that you want.

One thing you want to avoid is negativity. EVERYONE once in a while has a problem with being upset, or irritated, but that’s only human nature. But always being mad and grouchy is terribly terrible. Even though your not focusing on any one thing, you’re feeling the feeling of anger or sadness. Like mentioned earlier, the feeling is what counts in order to send out your wish, and if your angry, and you wish that out, the Universe will send more anger back at you. If your in a terribly bad mood, the Universe is not going to reply with a suggestion saying “Are you sure you want to wish for: more anger?” and have two buttons label “Yes or No” The Universe is going to obey you. Just like a king. You can wish for anything you want, and your servant will not question you. Avoid wishing for more negativity (unless you have some sort of illness you can’t control were you have the urge to think of murdering the human race and starting a government with bananas and toothpicks) Try relaxing and thinking relaxing thoughts. Sleep, eat, walk, run, exercise, computer-ise, anything that makes you truly happy, by all means do that thing! It will put you in a good mood, and you’ll be putting out that wish for more things to elevate your mood!

One thing people mistakenly do when trying to think positive is say, “I’m going to get that phone soon” THIS IS WRONG! Refrain from keep your wishes in future tense, because if you do, it will always stay in the future and you’ll never have it! If you say “I have that phone.” or “That phone is mines.” “The phone belongs to me.” Things like that. Say it in present tense. Pretend that when you walk down the street, you feel your pocket vibrate and pull out your snazzy, new Motorola DynaTac. But you can also wish for things that are not physical. You can wish that your fever goes away. Just feel as if you were perfectly healthy. Instead of staying in bed all day feeling like a piece of crap, you can walk around the house. Not necessarily aimlessly, but you can jump around, etc. Just feel healthy.

I love to help, and a lot of other people also. But sometimes when people try to help, the only thing they do is hurt. They may not be aware of the fact that they’re focusing on the problem, which is pointless. All your doing is creating more of the problem. Focus on the solution. Focus on the output of the problem. This will solve the problem that’s going on and all of the focus will be off the problem, so there’s no energy for the problem to exist. That is were people mess up a lot. That’s why people say, “I tried to help but things just got worse!” Well now you know why! And know you know what to do instead. Martin Luther King Jr. knew that. He never bought large pieces of paper and colorful markers and made signs saying “End Segregation!” He preached about everybody acting as one (which we should do.) That was smart. And look at the impact he had on the world and the how he changed how segregation was viewed. He was just an ordinary person. He was no God or anything. All he was was a person with knowledge. He understood how the game was played. And I hope this article has taught you, how to play the game.

“All things are subject to interpretation whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth”. Friedrich Nietzsche

Words can dehumanize people  or win critical campaigns. Words are used to heal and positively influence decisions made during times of national crisis. In America, the positive campaign message, “Yes We Can,” used by Barack Obama in the 2008 Presidential campaign encouraged voters to elect him. During times of war, Americans select words with negative connotations to represent our opponent. People of different cultures are dehumanized by word labels like gooks, chinks, it and enemy.

History tells us about famous dictators and leaders of countries who understood the critical importance of the written word. These governments exercise control over the newspaper industry which is viewed as a trusted source of truth for readers believing in the freedom of the press.

Words and Influence

If the words we think of influence our actions then having negative or positive thoughts can lead to a corresponding negative or positive action. Reading positive articles could potentially produce more preferable actions than negative ones.  In the digital world, the Internet, social networks, wikis and forums all influence what we think. We write words to communicate a particular thought to the recipient or a select group of people. We check our mobile devices and email applications to retrieve a specific message. We read the words, develop thoughts and choose to take an action. In the global environment we must also ask the question regarding how language may shape an individual’s thought process. The language difference may also change how people think about things in the world and what actions are taken.

Words for War

Thoughts of defending ourselves in times of war could easily yield thoughts of killing, as a defense against our enemy.  The words we use to describe individuals during times of war can make it easier to accept wars and the killing that goes along with it. When America is at war, we rename our opponent to make them our enemy or less than human. The word enemy or foe implies that we are threatened by the existence of the opposing force. It can be difficult to kill but it is more acceptable to kill your enemy in defense.

Words and Power

Words are powerful and can provoke actions that result in character assassinations or the development of organizations that save starving children.  Words of inspiration can lift a nation and words of deception can destroy cultures and societies that accept the deception. Using negative and derogatory terms can be used as a means to an end.  Critical thoughts can sometimes reveal the purpose of the words we hear and read.

1: Ask too many questions about what they’re doing and where they are.

2: Being to clingy and wanted to near them at all times of the day.

3: Assuming on constant basis… (Thinking they’re cheating or doing something wrong)

4: Not trusting them at all, especially showing it.

5: Not being honest to them or constantly lying to them.

6: Constamtly pressuring them… (decisions, marriage…etc)

    Be sure that there are more that I probably didn’t name. Be sure to be very mindful about what you say and do. This way you’ll better your chances on keeping your boyfriend/girlfriend closer and happier.

Your intelligence relies on your ability to retain information and extract it when needed. For an example when you are having a maths exam the outcome of that test relies on your ability to extract previously learned information. That previously learned information had to be retained with in your brain for you to later call upon for use, in this case for use in a maths exam. Now retaining and extracting information does not sound hard, so why aren’t we all geniuses? We aren’t because we humans get distracted when retaining information, we also forget information that we have not used in a while. For instance a 50 year old will more than likely have forgotten how to do algebraic equations that they once knew how to do when they were 16. Now the retained information about algebraic equations is still there but the pathways to it within your brain have not been used in a while, so it harder and takes longer to extract that information, sometimes pathways are rendered useless and cannot ever extract the information along that specific pathway. However new pathways can be formed to retrieve the information, an example of this is a sudden remembrance of an event you may of experienced and you needed a certain smell or image to rebuild the path way or in a common phrase “jog your memory”. So retaining and extracting information are the foundations of intelligence. The most important part however is the ability to think objectively. Thinking objectively, to put it simply is to get things done. You set yourself a goal, complete it, then move on to the next one. This also aids your ability to problem solve. Thinking objectively however is increasingly difficult as we have MANY ways to procrastinate and procrastinating slows or blocks this ability as we are unable to fulfil and create new goals. So simply intelligence is the ability to retain (learn, remember) information and extract (Say what you have learnt, call upon it) it, then use it effectively.       

Introverted Thinking

“The INFJ’s thinking is introverted, turned toward the subject. Perhaps it is when the INFJ’s thinking function is operative that he is most aloof. A comrade might surmise that such detachment signals a disillusionment, that she has also been found lacking by the sardonic eye of this one who plumbs the depths of the human spirit. Experience suggests that such distancing is merely an indication that the seer is hard at work and focusing energy into this less efficient tertiary function.”

I’m not upset, (at least not by anything you did- I’m likely upset about the insufficiency of the human race), I’m not angry, and it’s possible that I’m not even tired. If I was one of those things, I would tell you why. When I get that zoned out creepy awkward stare, I’m focused. My awareness has drifted away from the world and into the detailed patterns and musings of my mind. Do not interrupt me if you wish to live.

If you ever hear me say, “I’m thinking,” this is what I’m doing.

Extraverted Sensing

“INFJs are twice blessed with clarity of vision, both internal and external. Just as they possess inner vision which is drawn to the forms of the unconscious, they also have external sensing perception which readily takes hold of worldly objects. Sensing, however, is the weakest of the INFJ’s arsenal and the most vulnerable. INFJs, like their fellow intuitives, may be so absorbed in intuitive perceiving that they become oblivious to physical reality. The INFJ under stress may fall prey to various forms of immediate gratification. Awareness of extraverted sensing is probably the source of the “SP wannabe” side of INFJs. Many yearn to live spontaneously; it’s not uncommon for INFJ actors to take on an SP (often ESTP) role.”

Sometimes you have to say my name a few times to get me to hear you. I have to watch this because I’m liable to zone out completely and ignore all prompting if there’s something really interesting going on in my head. That’s why I can never get up in the morning- my dreams drown out my alarm clock.

I’ve also been known to respond to a question unknowingly, and sometimes incorrectly, while in this state. A lot of times, my family will tell me something I need to know, have an entire conversation about it, and have to repeat it again later because I wasn’t “there.” I do notice things when I want to, though. It might just be that I notice one thing, spend six minutes mulling over it, and miss twelve other things.

Under stress… I drink Dr. Pepper like it’s beer. I also ignore all responsibility that can be procrastinated until I have sufficiently relaxed and sorted through all my mental anxieties. I do like to live spontaneously at times, mostly because I want the practice. I need to prepare myself for unexpected change, so when I have a chance to comfortably step out of my routine into something that I’ll quickly catch onto, I go for it. I’m also great at adjusting because I have so many back-up plans, so it’s not hard for me to switch things around if I need to. Just know that when you ask me to hang out, I’m mentally reorganizing my entire schedule for the month, and you can’t expect me to stay much longer than I originally made room for.

Introduction

Introverted iNtuition

“Introverted intuitives, INFJs enjoy a greater clarity of perception of inner, unconscious processes than all but their INTJ cousins. Just as SP types commune with the object and “live in the here and now” of the physical world, INFJs readily grasp the hidden psychological stimuli behind the more observable dynamics of behavior and affect. Their amazing ability to deduce the inner workings of the mind, will and emotions of others gives INFJs their reputation as prophets and seers. Unlike the confining, routinizing nature of introverted sensing, introverted intuition frees this type to act insightfully and spontaneously as unique solutions arise on an event by event basis”

I definitely notice more of the hidden psychological stimuli than I do what’s obvious. For instance, I’ll notice that you look like you’re in pain before I’ll notice the boot on your leg. If I see you kissing your boyfriend, I can immediately tell how comfortable you are with PDA. When you lie to me, I’ll know you’re lying because of what you say and who I know you to be. It won’t even register with me that you won’t look me in the eye.

Sometimes, I’m really good at predicting things. I usually don’t voice my “prophecies” because I know the likelihood of them being wrong, but I’m never surprised by the outcome. If I’ve been paying attention to something, I’ll know all the possibilities of what could happen before they do, and the chances that one thing will happen over the other. I can usually give you a fifty-fifty guess on something and be right. So like it says about acting spontaneously, I’m not really spontaneous. I just have about six different plans for each step of the way, and I know exactly when to adjust my plans. It sounds more complicated than it is…

Extraverted Feeling

“Extraverted feeling, the auxiliary deciding function, expresses a range of emotion and opinions of, for and about people. INFJs, like many other FJ types, find themselves caught between the desire to express their wealth of feelings and moral conclusions about the actions and attitudes of others, and the awareness of the consequences of unbridled candor. Some vent the attending emotions in private, to trusted allies. Such confidants are chosen with care, for INFJs are well aware of the treachery that can reside in the hearts of mortals. This particular combination of introverted intuition and extraverted feeling provides INFJs with the raw material from which perceptive counselors are shaped.”

Some vent to everyone around them, and the internet. However, due to the awareness of the consequences of unbridled candor, some, i.e. me, may ambiguously vent in the form of poetry or an illusion that few will catch and understand. Therefore, my trusted allies are those that understand me well enough to find my hidden meaning. Anyone that knows me that well can be trusted without a problem.

(to be continued… I have too much to say on this. It won’t fit on one page and I hate making these articles impossibly long).