With this common notion of men, it goes to say that a man’s barometer of virginity is the hymen. And one common misconception among men is that – if the woman’s hymen is already ruptured, she can no longer be considered virgin. Or, when a woman doesn’t experience slight bleeding during her first sexual intercourse, she’s no longer a virgin and that she already have had previous sexual experience(s).

I conducted a personal survey among the youth regarding the issue of virginity on marriage. There were 150 adolescent male-respondents. The question goes like this – “If on the first night of your wedding, you find out that your newly-wed wife is no longer virgin, what are you going to do?” Are you going to leave her or stay? Why and why not?” And here’s what the result says; 138 or 92% of the respondents said they will leave their wife because they’re expecting their wife is still a virgin. Only 12 or 8% said they will stay and said that hopefully they will learn to accept the situation and 2 of the 8% insisted to ask their respective wives who devirginize them.

Although there’s a rapid increase on the numbers of teen-agers engaging in sex and despite the liberal or westernized ways (e.g. clothes, music, foods, sexual preference, etc) of Filipino male adolescents, they still have a high regard on woman’s virginity in relation to marriage.

In fairness to women, men should take note that hymen is not the sole manifestation of their being virgin. Any woman is considered a virgin as long as she has not been engage in a sexual activity. Some women will not experience slight bleeding during their first sexual intercourse because their hymen might have been already ruptured due to some reasons. Causes of ruptured hymen may be brought about by accidents, biking, horse back-riding and other strenuous activities like gymnastics, karate-do and many others.