It seems to me that everywhere I go the people around me are rushing about.  Is it because they have some emergency they need to get to? I highly doubt that to be the case as I see people rushing into the Dunkin Donuts parking lot.  How are donuts an emergency? I can just imagine someone saying “If I don’t eat a donut right this second I am going to die”!

Many times I see people zipping in and out of lanes while driving in an effort to get to their destination a few seconds faster.  And for what?  When they get there they may just end up sitting around waiting for the event to take place.  My favorite is when people rush around the store only to end up on line as there are five or six people ahead of them! Better yet is when those people get to the line and ask if they can get in front of you!  

I honestly think that the reason why a lot of people are always in a rush is because they don’t pay attention to time.  Think about it, if people left on time they wouldn’t be in a hurry! Or, if they accounted for traffic they wouldn’t have to hurry.  Personally if I know it takes an hour to get to my destination I will leave my home an extra thirty minutes earlier.  As my tenth grade Spanish teacher would say “Better never than late”.  I hate being late to anything!

So tell me, are you the type to always rush? Or do you plan everything so that you are not hurried?  Or is time unimportant to you?

The only restriction God put on sexual relationships is that it be kept within marriage. As it says in Hebrews 13:4, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled.”

Sex is not restricted because it is a bad, sinful thing to do. It is restricted because it is sacred and holy. Marriage is not really valued much in western society anymore, but in the beginning, God said, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)

A friend of mine recently attended the wedding of her niece, who had been living with her fiancé before they married. My friend later emailed her niece and asked her, “So, how is married life?” Her niece wrote back said that it really didn’t change anything.

My friend said that she was thinking of telling her niece that living together before marriage is a bit like opening your Christmas presents early. Then when Christmas Day comes, there is nothing special about the day.

The wedding day is more of an ostentatious event to plan, especially for the bride. It is a chance to get a gorgeous gown, get our hair and make-up done, and have lots of pictures taken. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but for the couple who have already made a life together, the wedding is only a party, not the start of a new life.

The desire for sex is not wrong. It is more difficult these days to wait, living in a culture that is obsessed with sex, and where marriage is delayed until later in life. A pastor’s wife said that she told her teenagers to think of putting those feelings in a bank, saving them up for that special day when they can be withdrawn and enjoyed.   

Assured that life will be better when we get married. Life will be better when we have a baby. So when we get another child.
Then again, it seems to us that life will be better when the kids grow up. Perhaps we could then take care of ourselves.
And when children grow up, they drives us crazy because they are crazy adolescent.

Surely we’ll be happier when they  come out of this period.
Then, still talking to ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse came to mind. It will be even better when you buy a nicer car, when we are able to go on vacation, when we finally retire.
The truth is that there is no better moment for the happiness of this moment.
If not now, when?

Your life will always be full of difficulties.

It is best to acknowledge yourself and decide to be happy anyway. To be happy now.
Happiness is the right way. So, keep every moment you have. Keep it even more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend time with him (or her) … And remember that time no one is waiting!

So, stop waiting …

To finish college.

To lose 10 pounds.
To get 10 pounds.
To marry.
To pay your loans.
To buy a new house or car.
To get the children.

To thy children leave home.
To go back to college.
To divorce.
To go into retirement.
To come summer.
To come spring.
To come winter.
To come fall.
To die.

There is no better moment for the happiness of this moment now. Happiness is a journey, not a goal!

So ……
Work like you do not need money,
Love like you’ve never been hurt,
and dance like nobody is watching you…

People find it difficult to abide by the traffic rules, use the correct lanes, or even stop and go according to the general traffic signal. This attitude is seen even in people who hold very high and responsible positions in their professions. It is natural for anyone to dread the slow morning traffic to work and the inevitable snarls that are a part of it. But the constant sound of honking horns at all odd hours, even in the residential areas is a cue to the restless mindset of the vehicular road users.

We often see that in any public place, say a supermarket, people try to find ways to avoid the process of waiting and hasten the process of billing, by citing a waiting child or their formidable age or poor health. Given an opportunity, people prefer to jump the queue rather than wait for their turn.

We get agitated when our plans backfire- when our train gets delayed or a meeting gets postponed.  We believe that all is well only when everything falls in place and it is only natural that our world gets topsy-turvy when there is a shift in a regular routine. The actual change could be ridiculously small, but our mind that is trained to follow a systematic routine finds it difficult to accept the change, however small or big, and to see beyond it.

Life would be much more fun and enjoyable, only if we are willing to change our perspective of things and train our mind to calm down.  It is the nature of the mind to absorb the inputs and analyze them and an easy way of calming the mind is to allow it its function. We constantly seek purpose to our existence and the key to the art of waiting is it making it purposeful.  The only effective method of developing the art of waiting is to accept it as a boon that it is- It is the precious “my” time that is hard to find in everyday life.  It could be used for self-introspection or for observing the unknown people around. This action, for which we never find the time or energy, could give us a lot of insights that we would never gain otherwise.

Let us learn to waitJ for a right time or for a right cause.

When you are with an exciting sexual partner, then to make the most of the time you spend together, you need to feel not just horny, but genuinely sexy, so it is important that you forget the imperfections of your physical appearance, concentrating instead on your technique, because that is what can make all the difference.

Really good sex always gets imagined by the participants before the real action starts, and it is the way in which you make those thoughts into actions that determines how good it turns out to be. Getting the other person to want to be your sexual partner means making them feel that they are the only interesting  person around, where you are concerned

Listen very carefully indeed to everything they say, and really hear it, looking deep into their eyes as much as they seem comfortable with. They need to see the passion in your eyes, your sexuality a unique gift reserved exclusively for them, and do touch them, as often as possible, because this transmits sexual tension, adding to the eroticism.

The delicious pleasure you always feel, at the gentle mercy of a skilledperson massaging you, should be in your thoughts, because erotic telepathy really does get your prospective partner thinking the same way, if your gentle caresses are persistent enough during conversation.

Knowing which of your own body areas are most sensitive will provide a good idea of the right areas to touch them, when you begin the sexual build-up. The sex act itself should be delayed. gentle foreplay taking precedence, only touching lightly on very sensitive parts, to begin with.

When dancing, avoid being heavy handed, providing gentle kisses on neck or earlobe, and perhaps running fingers along their spine, or over their bum lightly, small gestures that make them shiver with delight. Be confident of your sexuality, telling them, light-heartedly, what you’d like to do to them, looking deep into their eyes as you speak, but take it gently.

Never forget that when it comes to sex, anticipation heightens bodily sensations, so the more the sexual act itself gets held back from, the more explosive it becomes actually entered into. Toset the mood, once back home, you could maybe watch porn together, but fully clothed.

Both of you soon start responding to those primal urges, bubbling below the surface, but even as you slip each other’s clothes off, remember not to rush things. Concentrating on each other, now is the time to give them that head to toe slow, sensuous massage, hoever rampant with impatience you are, and they must they do the same for you, the sexual electricity building all the time

Start talking dirty, kissing and licking any and every part of their body, though not  sexual organs, till the last minute.  By that time, you will both want so badly that the sex will blows your mind, so much that you never do it any other way again. Just apply yourself in the right way, make surprise phone calls, send unexpected gifts, but above all see yourself as sexy, knowing that people are attracted to you, because that outlook could make all the difference. to your life. Let the sexual prisoner inside yourself free, and never look back.When you are with an exciting sexual partner, then to make the most of the time you spend together, you need to feel not just horny, but genuinely sexy, so it is important that you forget the imperfections of your physical appearance, concentrating instead on your technique, because that is what can make all the difference.

Really good sex always gets imagined by the participants before the real action starts, and it is the way in which you make those thoughts into actions that determines how good it turns out to be. Getting the other person to want to be your sexual partner means making them feel that they are the only interesting  person around, where you are concerned

Listen very carefully indeed to everything they say, and really hear it, looking deep into their eyes as much as they seem comfortable with. They need to see the passion in your eyes, your sexuality a unique gift reserved exclusively for them, and do touch them, as often as possible, because this transmits sexual tension, adding to the eroticism.

The delicious pleasure you always feel, at the gentle mercy of a skilledperson massaging you, should be in your thoughts, because erotic telepathy really does get your prospective partner thinking the same way, if your gentle caresses are persistent enough during conversation.

Knowing which of your own body areas are most sensitive will provide a good idea of the right areas to touch them, when you begin the sexual build-up. The sex act itself should be delayed. gentle foreplay taking precedence, only touching lightly on very sensitive parts, to begin with.

When dancing, avoid being heavy handed, providing gentle kisses on neck or earlobe, and perhaps running fingers along their spine, or over their bum lightly, small gestures that make them shiver with delight. Be confident of your sexuality, telling them, light-heartedly, what you’d like to do to them, looking deep into their eyes as you speak, but take it gently.

Never forget that when it comes to sex, anticipation heightens bodily sensations, so the more the sexual act itself gets held back from, the more explosive it becomes actually entered into. Toset the mood, once back home, you could maybe watch porn together, but fully clothed.

Both of you soon start responding to those primal urges, bubbling below the surface, but even as you slip each other’s clothes off, remember not to rush things. Concentrating on each other, now is the time to give them that head to toe slow, sensuous massage, hoever rampant with impatience you are, and they must they do the same for you, the sexual electricity building all the time

Start talking dirty, kissing and licking any and every part of their body, though not  sexual organs, till the last minute.  By that time, you will both want so badly that the sex will blows your mind, so much that you never do it any other way again. Just apply yourself in the right way, make surprise phone calls, send unexpected gifts, but above all see yourself as sexy, knowing that people are attracted to you, because that outlook could make all the difference. to your life. Let the sexual prisoner inside yourself free, and never look back.

As people grow old, we tend to also grow and go deeper to the true meanings of love. From acquaintance to friends, from courtship to being in a relationship, and from engagements to marriage.  The end point of it all, is not the time that you spend together but it’s the endurance and continuity of always falling in love with one another.

I am blessed with a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend. We have spent most of our time together, we work in the same company, travel together, eat our meals together, and even stay late night just to hang out and talk to each other about our experiences for the day. He had been my comfort zone, with him, I can be whatever I want and go to places we love.

But with time, priorities also change. When he decided to equip himself and take a time off to review for his License Examination, we were faced with the reality that we have to be away from each other for a long period of time. Long distance relationship was never in my vocabulary but I learn how to accept it in a hard way. How? I actually don’t have the choice. It’s a selfish thing to actually hold him back and stand against his decision, but despite it all if you really love the person and  hope for your future together, acceptance, love and understanding will always fill your heart. Our relationship is becoming stronger each day, discovering more of ourselves and preparing to be the perfect person for one another. I realized that the hard way to not have a choice, is actually God’s way of saying “I’ll make it easy for you”. Now, we are joyfully making each day an opportunity for us to love beyond our distance.

Let me share to you seven (7) things to consider if you have a long distance relationship.

1. TRUST -  In every relationship Trust is a very fragile virtue that we must all protect. It’s like a vase that once broken, no matter how much you try in putting all the pieces together, it will never be the same. Be true to one another.

2.COMMUNICATION – Let your partner know that distance is not a hindrance for you to talk to one another, today’s technology makes it all easy and cheaper to communicate.

3. ALIGN YOUR SCHEDULE – Be open to update one another of your schedule for the day, it will make you more secure that you still know each other’s activities and makes it more easy to understand if you miss to call of text.

4. BUILD YOURSELF – This is in simple words ” keep yourself busy”, have a life and spend time with your friends, family and most of all with doing things that you mostly like doing. Try doing things that you never tried before, it will help you be excited to share these things to your partner when you communicate.

5. LEARN TO LISTEN – With distance the only affection that you can always give is  neither hug nor kisses but your listening ear and heart. Learn to accept the things that your partner is going through, even if he/she committed a mistake, always be open to listen to him/her so that openness and trust will always be there and there will be NO SECRETS.

6.  FOCUS ON THE GOAL – It is easier for you to understand and keep yourself from feeling alone if you know the reason why you are distant to one another. Be a reminder to each other and be a source of hope to endure all things with love.

7. PRAY – It is the absolute and very important act to endure, understand, hope and keep loving one another. The Almighty never fails to grant our hearts desires, let Him walk with you  and guide you both in this journey of waiting.

Keep on Loving.=)

Everything I did was finally showing,

I hated my life for all the wrong reasons,

the lit candle was throwing

my own shadow on the rough floor,

it was the last time I’d see it,

then no more,

a voice came softly to me on the air,

someone was there,

but I just couldn’t see,

I turned around so sharp

that my breath left me,

my soul I knew God could not receive,

then I saw a light,

for a moment,

I thought my eyes would deceive,

the dark shadow came toward me,

he was staring at me over his drawn up knees,

seconds became minutes

and minutes became hours,

my emotions would tip,

the sensations would flip,

waiting was like watching honey drip,

death crouched in my shadow,

there, very near,

and what disturbed me most,

was the lack of fear,

but more profoundly,

I felt like a ghost,

oh, but I was wrong,

and that’s when death came along,

with crude, pounding power,

very strong,

the light was lifting,

my soul was drifting,

and yet I never moved,

then I took my last mortal look,

my desk, the chairs by the fire,

my pictures, a coffin, the Bible,

God’s book,

life would then fall,

after all the waiting,

I didn’t understand death at all.

It occurred to me that one of the reasons stores don’t offer layaway is the thought of instant gratification compared to long term.  Most people have the need to have what they want when they first see the thing. Stores know this.  If there is no layaway how likely are you to buy it now? They also know if the quantity is limited you will most likely get it now. (Barbie, CAbbage Patch Dolls, XBox, etc.) Do you really think they couldn’t make enough to handle the demand? Every year? If that’s true why are there so many in stores after the holidays? Do the companies not know when Christmas is coming? Not many of us plan to acquire our possessions anymore. Is it the thought that it won’t be as good if we have to wait for it?

Does acquiring a thing now make it better then waiting for it? Does having to wait devalue a thing? If it is something you truly want does it really matter when you get it? It will still be yours, won’t it?  Will you be less in love with it because you waited? This can be applied to every part of your life.

Perhaps these are the questions we need to ask ourselves? Perhaps that is the question the stores like Walmart already asked. I think that;that  maybe another reason there are so few layaways. Ours has become a society of want, instead of need. We want everything new and right now. Is it any wonder the world is in chaos? We don’t seem to be learning anything from having it now behavior. The items we acquire are mass produced with little quality to them. Could this be a by- product of the same need?

There was a time when people planned to have the things they wanted. They worked to get them and found pleasure in the getting as well as the having.  I watched my mom use layaway and I used it myself when I could. I was never sorry I waited for something I got neither was she. I was just as happy and thrilled to show it off when I got it.

I will still take long term gratification over instant anytime I can. Look at the way our food has changed. Suddenly there are more holistic choices. People are growing their own again and turning away from companies that don’t offer the choice.  Cars are being  recalled after people found out about the problems that can be traced back to a need to produce more and have them ready for the masses. The list goes on of the things that  have no quality. I for one believe it has to do with this dilemma of gratification. How many can remenber  when we were told “You can’t rush a good thing.”   

Well you can’t ask for quality if you want it in a rush either.  So Instant or Long Term? Which one will you chose? 

When you think about it we spend an awful amount of time waiting for things, whether it is waiting for the train, waiting for a page to load, waiting on hold, waiting in a queue. Everyday there is a chance that you have been waiting for something.

Wouldn’t it be good if we never have to wait? Then we could reclaim those few precious minutes of our lives that we never get back! Surely with all the technology around there must be a way of cutting out the waiting times, well I don’t want to disappoint you so let me tell you some ways to save yourself a little bit of time.

Gethuman.com

This is a genius website that will help you spend less time selecting option 1 – 1000 on the endless supply of phone menu’s that we have to go through whenever we call a company. Just search the company you want and which country it is in and hopefully they will have what you are looking for! It will tell you the exact buttons to push to get through to a person so that you don’t have to get confused between all the options. Unfortunately you may still have to spend some time waiting to speak to a human, but at least you would have saved time choosing options.

Transport updates

If you are using public transport then make sure before you leave the house to check the website to see if there are any delays, therefore you will know if you are going to have extra time. Also check traffic report websites, this way you can decide to go a different way if you think you are going to be stuck waiting.

Choose less popular restaurants.

As we all know its the popular ones that you need to wait for your table in, unless you have the pre-sight to book ahead. So why not try some other restaurants? You will save waiting time and might even find a new favourite.

Make your own lunch.

Fed up with spending half your lunch break waiting in a queue for food, then make your own, saves time and money!

Shop online!

How big do you think the queues are right now, how big were they before Christmas?  How much easier it would be if we could just order things and have them delivered. Oh yeah, we can! Wouldn’t it be even better if we could order it gift-wrapped and then we wouldn’t have to do it. Oh yeah, on a lot of sites you can!

If you have enough money ….

Hire a private jet! You wont have to wait in line with people at the airport as you will be the only one on the flight! Also if you have the money a private helicopter will get you to places faster than a car, you just may need to find a place to land, could be the same as looking for a space in a car park!

Above all make up your mind to have a max time that you will wait, decide that you will not spend more than X amount of minutes before leaving. So if that means that friend who is always late will have to track you down, so what, she wasted your time, waste some of hers!

Decide today that you are going to start creating more free time by doing less waiting, and enjoy your free time!