I’ve wanted to write this to you for months now, only because I really don’t think that I could stomach to face you in person.   You know who I am.  I am your texting friend’s wife.   You and my husband have completely turned my world upside down, and I am now living in hell.  I don’t blame you alone…it took the both of you to create this hell for me.  How long were you planning to keep your ”thing” going?  I pride myself on the fact that I wasn’t stupid.  For future reference for yourself, he has put me through this before and I knew I would be dealing with it again.  He’ll do it to you, too.  Do not think for a minute that you are different.   I just hadn’t planned on this happening around our 18th wedding anniversary.  I knew something was going on and yes, I snooped and caught you both red handed.  He didn’t seem to appreciate my snooping and finding out your name, your phone number and your address, but I really don’t care.  Somehow I was the bad guy because I found out.    ”P” continued to lie for you for weeks.  I guess that should make you feel good.   He denied it.  He told me at first it was a friendship, then he described it as an “inappropriate relationship”..kinda sounded like Bill Clinton, when he said it and we all know what he did.   When asked what you talked about…Life, is what he told me.  He said it never worked out for you two to become physical, but you went to lunch once.   I’m not sure that I buy that that was all it was/is.  He claims he hasn’t spoken to you since November 30, 2011.  That was 8 days after I confronted him with your phone number blowing up our phone bill with all the text messages.   8 days.   What happened in those 8 days?  He said he told you that I was uncomfortable with the relationship…me.   I wasn’t uncomfortable with it.  I was way beyond uncomfortable with it, yet he used me to end it with you.  I guess you  two were both ok with shitting on your spouses.  Oh, I’m sure I was made out to be the bitch from hell, which I am not.  I have been extremely patient through his ex-wives, ex-girlfriends, job losses which led to bankruptcy, not to mention his teenage son.  I’ve never complained about money issues, when I was about to pull my hair out,  had migraines from the stress, wondering how we would pay bills.  He never knew and still doesn’t know what it takes to pay bills.  I always handled it, so that he wouldn’t be stressed about it and raise his blood pressure to high heaven.  I took on all the responsibilty and this is my thank you.  (High blood pressure…make a mental note of that.  You’ll need to know how to take care of him down the road, if I decide to leave him.)

A few interesting kinda warped age facts about this relationship…You graduated from high school the year our youngest son was born.  There is as many years difference between you and my husband as there is between you and our oldest son.  Think you might’ve been a mid-life fling to see if he still had it???  Humm…

  The only reason I haven’t contacted you is because I know you have a son, just like I do, and I don’t want my son to know the hell that I’m in right now.  Nor, do I want your son to know what a low life he has for a mother.  They are the innocent victims who didn’t choose to have snakes for parents.  Your husband and I had a choice.   Yes, you are married, as well, yet you didn’t seem to have a problem doing this to your husband.  What does that say about you?  I have his phone number as well as yours, and haven’t contacted him because of the death of his father.  Yes, “W” I know alot about you.  I’ve told “P” that I probably know more about you than he does.  I’ve shown him things that are written about you online and he seemed shocked.  I’m certain there were lots of lies being exchanged between the two of you.  He lied to me …do you honestly think he was telling you the truth about him??  You are both lucky that I’m trying to handle this as gracefully as I can.  I pray alot for me, not the two of you, so much, but for our families who will be caught in the crossfire if you two choose to pursue the relationship you started, and say to hell with everybody else.  Selfish.  That’s what both of you are.  I didn’t ask for this, yet I have to deal with this.  I do not believe in divorce.  I never have, but I don’t believe in being a doormat either.  I have to decide if I want to stay in this marriage, or walk away.   Is it worth breaking up our home to make all the hurt  that you’ve caused go away?  You are a constant thought in my head.  You wrote online that if anyone wants to know anything about you to ask.  I’m convinced I know you “W” and the kind of person you are.   You are a lost person who claims to pray for people online.  Your poor husband doesn’t have a clue what you’ve done to him behind his back.  Do I tell him?  “P” doesn’t want anyone else to get hurt.  I guess it was ok to hurt me since I snooped.  I guess that’s my punishment for knowing exactly what he is and what you are.  

Do I want to know your side of it?  Probably not.  I wouldn’t believe anything you said or any excuse you gave me for continuing this for months.  So actually contacting you probably wouldn’t do me any good.  I just have to decide to give up on my marriage or keep on praying and stay…only to be here again with yet another woman.  Or it might be you again, down the road.  

I do hope that you see this someday.  Remember, I do know your address, email address, cell number, where you work….only the grace of God is keeping me from contacting you to confront the actual demon that is tearing my marriage apart.   In the meantime, I hope you find happiness in your marriage and stay out of mine.   

There’s plenty of lying going on online when it comes to dating and finding someone to have that perfect relationship with.  A study conducted at the University of Wisconsin-Madison showed just how much and what can be done about it

The researchers have identified clues as to whether the author was lying or not. They compared the height, weight and age of 78 online daters to the information posted on their online information and photos on four matchmaking websites. Then the researchers conducted a linguistic analysis of the volunteer’s written self-descriptions to reveal patterns that constitute a high probability that the person was lying.

It’s All About “I”

For example, the more deceptive a dater’s profile, the less likely they were to use the first-person pronoun “I.”

“Liars do this because they want to distance themselves from their deceptive statements,” say the researchers.

The liars often employed ‘negation,’ a flip of the language that would restate “happy” as “not sad” or “exciting” as “not boring.” And the liars tended to write shorter self-descriptions in their profiles — a way to evade the truth, or not getting caught by weaving a more tangled web of deception in a longer description. The less they write, say the researchers, the fewer untrue things they may have to remember and support later.

Daters who had lied about their age, height or weight or had included a photo the researchers found to be less than representative of reality, were likely to avoid discussing their appearance in their written descriptions, choosing instead to talk about work or life achievements.

80 Percent Are Lying

In a second part of the study, the researchers asked volunteers to judge the daters’ trustworthiness based only on the written self-descriptions posted on their online profiles. About 80 percent of the 78 profiles in the study lied to some degree.

Weight was the most frequent transgression, with women off by an average of 8.5 pounds and men missing by 1.5 pounds on average. Half lied about their height, and nearly 20 percent changed their age.

The researchers point out that dating online is very different from a face-to-face meeting for several interesting reasons. For example, in online dating, the back-and-forth of an in-person conversation is missing, giving a liar the opportunity to respond at their leisure or not at all. And it’s editable, so the first telling of the story can come out exactly like the profile-writer would like.

The researchers suggest that some day there may be computer software that will tell how likely a potential online dating partner is to be lying, or shading the truth. Until then, it’s still “buyer beware.”

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According to a survey conducted Huffington Post (via an online survey services provider SocialSci and Mechanical Turk), against 230 adult respondents in the United States, women and men have different priorities in the development itself. Respondents answered questions about the custom of making resolutions, including resolutions they made in the past. This survey shows what kind of resolution are the priorities of women and men.

* Exercise: 78 percent of women, men 70 percent.
* Life is more regularly: 74 percent women, 66 percent male.
* More patient: 73 percent of women and men have this resolution.
* Work harder: men 73 percent, 67 percent of women.
* More to enjoy life: 69 percent of women, men 64 percent.
* Stop smoking: 63 percent male, 53 percent of women.
* Spend more time with your spouse: 61 percent of women, men 60 percent.
* Spend time with friends: 61 percent of women choose it, while only 49 percent of men who make New Year’s resolution.
* Stop drinking alcohol: 60 percent male, 14 percent of women.
* Spend more time with your children often: 59 percent of mothers, fathers 57 per cent.
* Lose weight: 57 percent of women, men 54 percent.

This survey also shows more women than men often make resolutions. As many as 63 percent of female respondents admitted they made a resolution every year, while only 50 percent of men who do the same. Women also tend to be more open, to let resolutions that they made to others. While 93 percent of male respondents said the resolution is personal and only for yourself not to be disclosed to others.

What about you, if your resolution and your spouse, boyfriend, sister or brother men, different in terms of priority is also the custom of making resolutions?

For men, they want a partner who not only loves himself alone, but also hanging out with friends. They might not get along all the time but at least when there is a chance, women can use that time to socialize with friends.

2. Men do not like when she ”adores” the other guy

Whether it’s a famous artist who became an idol even atapun other figure, he reallydid not like when other men adored her partner.

3. Men worry if their partner finds a better than him

Concerns a man on her partner if she would find a better figure it is often haunting.This often makes him very uncomfortable. However, he was always good at hidinghis concern is when in the presence of men.

4. Men love a hug

Especially when the agenda of the ongoing sex, men want you to hug him and notjust holding hands or touching his arm.

5. Do not tell me what happened tonight against another man

Men really do not like when women talk about what he does along with her ​​partner to others. Whether they are just sports activities, play bike, by car, and so forth. In essence, he is not interested in it. buy.

Lately, I’ve had to be able to travel to several could conventions and talk with ratings of females business owners about their Big Thoughts, Objectives and Objectives. Questions come up on a range of subjects such as how to start a business to getting an current business to the next level of good results. One concern that seems to have a persistent style right now is “How do I create a effective business while keeping work/life balance?” Great question! And one that warrants an response with some strong tips and alternatives.

Let me begin by giving with you that I don’t actually believe there is “work/life” stability. My thinking is that females indicate on and announce their principles that are individual to them and create a day-to-day life to aid those principles. I place a high value on 3 areas in my life; self-care, household and assisting females to live the day-to-day life they want – and are entitled to. Does it perform perfectly? Of course not. Kids get tired, dish washer smashes and netbooks strike up! I will reveal that it does perform 80% of time because I’ve determined to be practical using day-to-day traditions to deal with myself, my household and my company enterprise.

Do you have traditions for good results in your day-to-day life and business? Here are 7 traditions I use to help me stay on course and recognition what I value most:

1. Privacy – Learning how to just “be” is one of the biggest presents you will ever give to yourself. If you have a fast paced way of life (like me) you’ll need to strategy for isolation. I go for taking strolls by myself, invest a few hours in my home alone and sometimes take a individual few days escape.

2. Relaxation – Relaxation has become a significant part of my day-to-day life. It is a device I use consistently to help me get clear, targeted and based. Seated silently for 5 moments can create a extraordinary effect on your day. Based on my program, I indicate for at least 5 moments and a highest possible of 20 moments.

3. Adverse Conditions – Create an effort to prevent negative environments. Encompass yourself with positive, “nutritious” individuals who are success-oriented and think in large quantity. Having a helpful atmosphere makes probability considering and new ideas.

4. Excellent Not Amount – It’s my thinking then is more essential than quantity time with household. With a fast paced household and increasing business, I recognize I cannot do everything, however I create sure that I’m targeted and present for my household day-to-day when it really number.

5. Concentrate Time – Achievements comes to those who strategy for it. It’s essential that you create focus time for your enterprise enterprise and your individual day-to-day life. Will invest at least 1 hour a week examining where you are now and where you want to go at some point. Ensure that the action actions you are getting will help you get the results you want.

6. Teaching And Guidance – It’s essential to have a “thinking” associate along the way in your voyage. Here’s what I know for sure: You cannot do this by yourself. Having someone there to aid you and also obstacle your opinions can help decrease your voyage to good results.

7. Ask – Period – Stop seeking to be “superwoman.” It impacts your health and well-being. I know it’s a obstacle to ask for what you want or need, however if you fantasy of enjoying a effective business while keeping a nurturing, healthy, household – it’s the only way. Here’s what I’ve learned: everyone loves assisting you. Close relatives will create more powerful ties with your children because they have a longer period with them and there are individuals out there right now who would really like to help you achieve your perspective.

Being practical rather than sensitive in your day-to-day life and business can create a big change in the way your day originates. It’s not perfect but it is fulfilling to be living in the 80/20 screen of day-to-day life. 80% of plenty of it all works magnificently and of course there’s always that 20% that just about places you over the edge! I request you to consider including one or two of these traditions to your day-to-day life and business. A teacher once told me that “the smallest switch can create the most extraordinary effect.” That’s certainly true here.

Valentine’s Day is tomorrow and many women are surely excited about this event. Sadly, most of the guys manage to celebrate this special day by exerting a little amount of effort for their significant other. This article will help guys how to prepare or set-up a memorable Valentine date that their women will never forget.

First step of preparation is fixing yourself. Try cleaning up a bit extra before the night. You can buy a new shirt if you like or something that you do not wear on an ordinary day. This will give the impression that you treating this day special for her.

Before picking her up, stopping by to buy flowers is also a great idea. A dozen of roses are the most usual but you can try other kinds, but the best would be to know what type of flower/s your girl like.

Exerting extra efforts like popping a breath mint will also not hurt, a women pay attention to these little details and she will surely love it once she smell the mint. If you have a car to pick her up, be a gentleman and open the door for her, give her a kiss and hand her the flowers, whichever comes first, it’s all up to you.

If you are eating in a restaurant, make sure you have made reservation at least a week before the date so that you will have a sure table when you come. Choose a restaurant that is not loud and crowded, so you can hear each other better. Choose also a place with low-light ambiance because that is where women feel most attractive in, like a candle-lit environment.

Be extra attentive with her during your meal, ask her how she thinks about the food, if her wine glass is filled, and give compliments to her once in a while. Just give focus on her, this will make her feel so special and would be excited to tell her friends about.

After your meal and asking for the bill, ask her first how she feels about the night, then head to anywhere you want to spend the rest of your date with.

February 10, 2012: Valentine’s Day is only days away. Victoria’s Secret’s seems to make it pretty clear their ad campaigns might be geared toward the male viewers and hopeful consumers. Is it a coincidence Lauma Lingerie released their behind the scene photo shoot the weekend before Valentine’s Day?

Lauma Lingerie is part of the Silvano Fashion Group; an international lingerie distribution group involved in design, manufacturing and marketing of women’s lingerie. Silvano Fashion’s income is generated by sales of “Milavitsa”, “Alisee”, “Hidalgo”, “Lauma Lingerie” and “Laumelle” branded products through wholesales channel, franchised sales and own retail chains. Key sales markets for the Group are Russia, Belarus, Ukraine, Baltics and other worldwide markets. Lauma Lingerie’s factory is located in Liepaja, Republic of Latvia. The point is: women’s lingerie is big business, and women may not be the target audience (worldwide).

Here are models Wikky, Keana Keee, Julia Janukovich and Elena Vonoga shooting the campaign for Lauma Lingerie. The photographer is Sergey Kondrashin. The backdrop is Greece. Put them all together: buy her lingerie, preferably Laurma.

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OK, so if you agree you need to do something different this time, this is our top ten of romantic gestures for Valentine’s:

• 1. Write him or her a love poem. The point is, it doesn’t have to be really good (though we hear Shakespeare enjoyed a very active love life), it just has to be written from the heart, especially for him or her from you.
• 2. Cook a special dinner and, when he or she walks in from work, let them find a special Valentine’s menu pinned on the wall by the front door, just like you’d find outside a really cool restaurant;
• 3. Print a picture of the two of you. Don’t just leave those wonderful holiday snaps on your camera or computer like we all do, after a bit of photoshop work on a picture of the two of you, print it off and put it in a nice frame for him/her;
• 4. Book her/him a spa day at a local hotel for that ultimate pampering experience;
• 5. Leave dozens of ‘I love you’ notes around the house in places you know she/he will find them;
• 6. If you decide to buy him/her a special little gift for Valentine’s, such as a piece of jewellery or a watch, put it in the box of their favourite breakfast cereal so they shake out the surprise into their bowl in the morning;
• 7. Do you have a special ‘our song’? Serenade her/him with it. This could be on the phone to where she/he works, at the front door just after ringing the bell or from the garden up to the bedroom window. Use your imagination!
• 8. Take him/her out on a surprise mystery trip; it could be for a walk in the country, a nice meal or maybe just a movie;
• 9. The night before Valentine’s, put an ‘I love you’ banner on the roadside on the way he/she drives to work;
• 10. Set up a surprise home massage parlour. Get the table, the oils, the towels and the robe all ready and promise him or her the best massage in town!

Well then, what are doing still sitting here looking at your screen when you should only have eyes for your loved one?

You do really dig her, though, and you want to impress her, and give her something really cool, something that might even make her squeal with delight, because hey, it is Valentine’s Day and romance can be pretty damned cool, and she’s cute when she squeals with delight. So what can you do that’s the right amount of “You’re pretty wonderful” and “It’s not a ring, stop visualizing bridesmaid dresses” , you’re wondering?

Now, you could, if you have a chance, sneak around in her home dressed all in black like a ninja, doing things such as, say, checking out perfume bottles, sizes of lingerie and shoes, jotting down the names from the sides of saved shopping bags out of the closet and so forth… but, these things take time, not to mention they are very risky activities that one cannot partake in during the fragile beginnings of a relationship, lest one be branded a dangerous stalker. And once you are branded a Dangerous Stalker, well, it makes it harder to get reservations for that Valentine’s Night dinner. Something about “Two for Dangerous Stalker” is off-putting to most fine dining establishments, though no one quite knows why.

So to save you this trauma, I am here to help. Let’s begin, shall we?

♥Buy her costume jewelry. Something cute and sweet. But be sure to include some chocolates. For balance. Cause that way it will take her mind off the fact that she didn’t just get a diamond.

♥You don’t know her sizes, but you want to get her lingerie. Is she tall, petite? Slender, curvy? Stacked, not so stacked? Tell the salesperson. If her breasts can fit in the palm of your hand, she’s probably an A cup. If she overflows just a bit, probably a B. If she’s a good handful, she’s a C. And if you have to spread your fingers to hang on and you still don’t have full coverage, that’s a D. (If anyone can explain this in a more efficient way, feel free to write in and correct me. I figured that you’d enjoy visualizing this more than fruit, however.) I have to say, though, as with most other things on the list, the path of least resistance is the ever popular gift card. Get her one from Amazon and she can choose from tons of different lingerie retailers. But make sure you mark down that the gift card is for lingerie, lest it be spent on 

♥With stockings, generally petite through 5′9″ is one size. 5′10″ and up is Tall.  5′7″ or so and 190lbs or more is Queen (or roundabouts there I think, I’m taking a guess, I know it’s a lot larger and goes up higher, that number is a low point).

♥Perfume: A few perfumes that you cannot go wrong with – Most women will adore the smell of Issey Miyake’s L’eau D’Issey Eau D’Parfum. It has a nice blend of florals along with an undertone of light woods. It is beautiful and smells very elegant and luxurious. She will feel like a princess. Issey Miyake makes a Florale one also that is wonderful. Either of these will make your gal feel incredibly special. If she is in her early twenties or so, Juicy Couture’s original fragrance is a great choice as well. Another favorite of the young set is Davidoff’s Cool Water for women. And if you really want to be romantic, you can get her Creed’s Love in Black, which was originally developed exclusively for Jackie Onassis. (But you have to be sure to tell her the tale – and why not get her a Chanel suit and pillbox hat while you’re at it?

♥Shoes: Never try to guess a lady’s shoe size. Shoes run so differently, and an ill-fitting shoe can cause serious foot problems down the road. Better: Give your gal a beautiful box of handmade chocolates (check Etsy for some amazing sellers – some may be able to overnight their wares!) or in a pinch some Godiva or Ghiradelli from the mall, and tuck a gift card to DSW in the box. She can pick out her own shoes, and try them on first to make sure they are a perfect fit. And you know the old saying, “Give a woman shoes, and you have a friend for life.” Wait, that’s not an old saying? Well, it certainly should be.

♥Other gifts of luxury: Consider things like spa days, day cruises, mani-pedi gift certificates, his & hers massage dates, hair salon gift cards (careful with that one – don’t give her just a hair cut or “get your roots done” card, or your gift may backfire on your and you’ll have a mighty offended girl on your hands – and the amount of offense increases exponentially with the amount of candy that the holiday is associated with, so yep, that’s a lot of offense. Walk softly and carry a well-stocked gift card. Again, tucked inside a gift box of (her favorite kind) of chocolates would be really good. (Does she like milk chocolate? Have you heard her wax rhapsodic about white chocolate? When she gets it for herself, what does she get? Assuming you’ve seen her do this. Just a simple thing like knowing what kind of chocolate is her favorite can score major “This guy is incredible and deserves (fill in the naughty blank)” points. Though of course that’s not why you’re giving gifts. But you wouldn’t cry, would you?

Hopefully this has given you some ideas you wouldn’t have had otherwise, and you’ve got enough love ammo to cook up an idyllic day of gift-giving that will enhance your budding relationship with that special female with whom Cupid has graced you.

Happy Valentine’s Day! ♥