When we communicate, we tend to think that only our tongue speaks. This is just apparent. The truth is that each and every facial muscle, the hands and legs and the way we co-ordinate them also speak. It is said that it takes 14 muscles to smile. But it involves more muscles when we talk or listen.

The face reflects the inner thought process and what not. We never realize this while we communicate. Even if we try to hide our negative qualities like jealousy or feelings of inferiority and superiority,they do show up involuntarily in some way or the other.

The integration of all the qualities of speech and attitude is called personality. Personality is the one thing that is judged in the corporate sector. Personality development is the buzzword for student professionals and management trainers.Many institutions train student professionals the positive effects their personality can have on corporate managers. They also train students to take control over their body signals. In the technical and HR round, the companies’ HR managers consider all these aspects for employment. It, however, goes without saying that only a careful study of verbal and non-verbal communication can help us accurately interpret a person’s personality.

Certain body signs are:

• Fidgeting shows restlessness and unwillingness to concentrate in what is going on.
• Tapping one’s foot shows distraction, or in a positive way, it could indicate that the person is eagerly awaiting his turn to talk(during a group discussion or so).
• Bending down often or looking away during a group discussion could indicate that you’re unsure of the topic.
• Keeping the fists clenched might indicate that you feel aggressive about something.
• Not maintaining good eye contact with all might indicate that you are unsure about the topic or that you are afraid to express yourself.
• A posture where you lean forward indicates that you are engaged in the conversation and are listening to it with interest.

The key to a right posture while standing would be to keep the arms behind and pose a warm smile. While in a group discussion, it would be to sit erect, lean a little forward, pose a genuine smile, a speech that is clear and polite, head nods when you are listening to a person. Moreover,while denying a person’s view, the denial should be polite and not in a way that causes argument.

These are certain gestures involved in body language. They are just a guide that you can implement in your daily lives, attain self-improvement and impress people. For an indepth reading, I would recommend you the book, “How to Win Friends and Influence people”, a best seller by the famous writer by Dale Carnegie.