Deception

An estimated 80% of women fake orgasms. Their intention is to prevent the partner from feeling sexually incompetent, to avoid hurting his feelings, and because they think they won’t be able to reach orgasm. By simulating sexual climax, a woman is cheating and robbing herself of potential pleasure necessary for a successful relationship. The most intimate moments between two people turn into a parody.

We cannot use false pretenses as a basis for love and intimacy. You may feel uncomfortable speaking the truth, thinking the guy wouldn’t be able to distinguish a real orgasm from a playact, so you choose to ignore the real issue and stick to the bluff.

In reality, less than 10% of women regularly experience orgasm during sexual activity with a partner. Many women achieve orgasm only through masturbation, some of which are limited to one particular technique, position, or the necessity to use a vibrator. A relatively high portion of women think of themselves as unable to ever reach orgasm. Most of those who do climax during partner sex, experience it through manual or oral stimulation of the clitoris and inner labia, or in some cases by rubbing the clitoris against the partner’s body.

A woman will not climax if she is not sufficiently attracted to her partner. In this case the attraction depends on the quality of the relationship, the level of emotional and physical intimacy, his approach and technique, existing sexual chemistry, and physical attractiveness.

On occasion, a proportionate degree of satisfaction can set in without orgasm. Regardless, orgasm-free sex cannot become the norm. If it does, the relationship will crumble. The couple may still remain together and live sexlessly ever after.

The lack of orgasm in women is supported to a part by men. We still think of men as the gender with a higher sexual drive and women having to be manipulated into having sex. This rings true if the goal is to play around a bit, get entertained, and place the focus for the most part on the penis and penetration. In this case the sex usually turns into time wasted for the woman. Little wonder she thinks of her shopping and to do list during the act.

If a man loves a woman he will feel resentment and potentially suffer from trust issues. His ego and his feelings will be hurt. Because of lack of control of the situation, he won’t have a clear cut solution, so he’ll let it slide feeling confused and powerless.