An estimated 80% of women fake orgasms. Their intention is to prevent the partner from feeling sexually incompetent, to avoid hurting his feelings, and because they think they won’t be able to reach orgasm. By simulating sexual climax, a woman is cheating and robbing herself of potential pleasure necessary for a successful relationship. The most intimate moments between two people turn into a parody.

We cannot use false pretenses as a basis for love and intimacy. You may feel uncomfortable speaking the truth, thinking the guy wouldn’t be able to distinguish a real orgasm from a playact, so you choose to ignore the real issue and stick to the bluff.

In reality, less than 10% of women regularly experience orgasm during sexual activity with a partner. Many women achieve orgasm only through masturbation, some of which are limited to one particular technique, position, or the necessity to use a vibrator. A relatively high portion of women think of themselves as unable to ever reach orgasm. Most of those who do climax during partner sex, experience it through manual or oral stimulation of the clitoris and inner labia, or in some cases by rubbing the clitoris against the partner’s body.

A woman will not climax if she is not sufficiently attracted to her partner. In this case the attraction depends on the quality of the relationship, the level of emotional and physical intimacy, his approach and technique, existing sexual chemistry, and physical attractiveness.

On occasion, a proportionate degree of satisfaction can set in without orgasm. Regardless, orgasm-free sex cannot become the norm. If it does, the relationship will crumble. The couple may still remain together and live sexlessly ever after.

The lack of orgasm in women is supported to a part by men. We still think of men as the gender with a higher sexual drive and women having to be manipulated into having sex. This rings true if the goal is to play around a bit, get entertained, and place the focus for the most part on the penis and penetration. In this case the sex usually turns into time wasted for the woman. Little wonder she thinks of her shopping and to do list during the act.

If a man loves a woman he will feel resentment and potentially suffer from trust issues. His ego and his feelings will be hurt. Because of lack of control of the situation, he won’t have a clear cut solution, so he’ll let it slide feeling confused and powerless.

Hot, fulfilling sex doesn’t happen by magic. Women often inadvertently narrow the fashion in which they are able to achieve orgasm. Certain women, for example, think that they can only come if they press their thighs together, others think they have to lay on their stomach, some believe they can’t make it without the vibrator, or they can climax only with one particular man. All these are incorrect assumptions. Every healthy woman has orgasmic capacity. With enough experimentation on her own and with a partner, she can experience orgasm in different situations as long as her clitoris, labia, and possibly her g-spot, receive proper, direct and focused stimulation.

Proper in this case being the way it works for her. Many men regularly enjoy porn and they actually think that it is sex they‘re seeing. In most cases it is not. If you pay close attention you might notice that it does close to or absolutely nothing for the woman. You can get off at the sight of it as long as you don’t mistake this form of entertainment for real sex.

A man may feel threatened by the subject of female sexuality because it is not his penis doing the job, whether she comes or not. If this is you or your partner, you need to thoroughly inform yourself. Once you do, you will find plenty of ways to connect completely and enjoy yourself and your partner to the fullest.

Another important aspect for a woman is that she needs to let go of fear and anxiety. Enjoy preferred stimulation when you are feeling most comfortable and relaxed. Dream. Train your partner. Don’t worry if fulfilling your needs requires too much adjustment. Persistently seek out new techniques to climax and insist it happens as a part of the act.

Orgasm is a mental experience as much as it is a physical one. You have to want it, have the intention to have it, and know how to get it. Be determined about it and with time it’ll become a walk in the park. Most importantly, be selfish, focus on yourself and your sex, continuously squeeze and release your PC muscles, loose your mind in a no holds barred fantasy, and enjoy every bit of your climax.

An orgasm you are having is all yours. Your partner enjoys the privilege of sharing the moment of intimacy with you, and yet your orgasm is for you exclusively. You are not climaxing for your partner or anyone else. It is your personal moment of highest pleasure and satisfaction.

A climax is not a spontaneous simple pleasure, but something you have to work toward, psychologically, emotionally, and physically.