Eight Correct Ways to Deal with a Difficult Boss

This may be difficult, since you are not in a position of great power. After all, it is your job to please your boss, while your boss has no such responsibility to you. Still, a good relationship will probably be advantageous to both of you. That is your starting point.

1. Start by getting rid of whatever resentment you may have. It will do you no good. Instead, remember that no boss is going to be ideal. Work with what you have.
2. Never forget the power your boss has over you. If you are feeling rebellious, keep in mind that this power does not evaporate even if you quit – your new boss will probably want a reference. So don’t let your differences escalate into open war.
3. Remember that any blame is probably shared. Think hard about this. Have you done anything to exacerbate the situation? Try to see things from your boss’s point of view. This will enable you to be the problem-solver rather than the problem-starter. Take responsibility for positive change.
4. Never give into the temptation to say bad things about your boss when he is not around. That kind of talk has a way of getting back. And when it does, there will be a price to pay. You will have lost your boss’s trust.
5. Keep your boss’s interests in mind at all times. You have nothing to gain by embarrassing him, even if you derive a little malicious satisfaction. If your boss asks you to do something that you know will not work out, make the problem your own. Ensuring that the matter is dealt with satisfactorily will show your responsibility and gain valuable trust.
6. If your differences come to a head, be proactive. Arrange a talk to air things out. Here’s what to keep in mind:
   • Keep your differences private. Meet away from your co-workers, either behind closed doors or in a restaurant. If your conflict becomes public, your boss will have no room to back down.
   • Focus on issues, not personalities. Especially avoid the pronoun “you.” Using “I” should side-step the matter of blame. Try something like “I find it difficult to use my time efficiently when I don’t know what I am going to be doing for the day. I want to get as much done as possible, but it is hard when I am always juggling unexpected tasks.”.
   • Always strive for solutions instead of dwelling on problems. You will give your boss the opportunity to suggest improvements if you ask for advice. Ask, “How can I improve this situation?”
7. Try to “train” your boss just as he trains you. Provide positive reinforcement. When your boss does something to improve the situation, show your appreciation – and work harder. Things will keep improving.
8. The final solution, if it is a solution, is to leave. You might try a different division of your company. Or you might quit altogether. Either way, try not to leave on a bad note. If you fault your boss for everything, you’ll look bitter. Stay cool and professional.